Immanence Therapy supports couples on their journey in their various stages – premarital and marriage counseling, as well as peaceful separation or divorce, and co-parenting.

I also welcome various relationship and family models, including same-sex or non-binary, and polyamorous or open relationships. My special focus is on international, multi-cultural, and interracial relationships.

Relationships are essential to our life and wellbeing. Knowing ourselves is the foundation for healing and change, and that includes understanding how we relate to others, how we navigate shared space and time, and how we honor dialogue, dreams, and differences.

Our relationships can be affected by trauma in its various manifestations: Perhaps we dissolve when in relationship, we lose our sense of self, put our partner’s need first and have an intense fear that we might lose the relationship. Or we may identify as basically self-sufficient, needing no-one, and finding it hard to soften ourselves to the presence of another person. Trust, ambivalence, fear of abandonment, self vs. other are common topics in couples therapy. 

Couples therapy include learning healthy communication skills and emotional co-regulation. It is the re-learning space for interdependence, which includes re-learning the nature and importance of boundaries. Entering and maintaining a shared field is an integral part of healing trauma. We get to co-create reality and experience true emergence. To arrive here, we need to make conscious the ideas, expectations, and ultimately illusions we project onto our partner, as well as inherited storylines we play out but didn’t author.

I use a blend of trauma-informed approaches in my work with couples, including Jungian / Depth Therapy, Systems Theory, Gestalt Therapy, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Narrative Therapy, the Gottman Method, and Non-Violent Communication (NVC). Non-dual Tantra can also be helpful to understand relationship dynamics and patterns.  

If you would like to begin couples therapy, I offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation (video or phone) for us to connect, to learn more about what you are looking for, and to answer any questions you might have for me.